This little life of mine has given me so much and it's provided so many amazing opportunities. I have been lucky enough to live in a bunch of different places, and as a result of that, I have friends and family scattered all over this great big world of ours. Everywhere from Perth to Hobart, from Canada and the US, to Germany, Italy and even Israel. This life is also is the reason that some days I feel incredibly lonely. This motherhood gig sees me being constantly surrounded by people, yet feeling so incredibly lonely a lot of the time. I miss my friends and family, and I see social media as an awesome tool to help us all stay connected. I can post pictures and updates of what's going on with me and mine in one place, rather than 1000 different texts or emails. At the same time, it helps me feel like I am still a small part of their lives. Some may say that I rely on it a little too much, and that may be true, but some days it feels like my only connection to the outside world. I know many people that hardly ever log on, and somedays, I honestly wish I could be more like them, I wish I were able to be 100% content in my little bubble. However, most of the time I crave adult human contact. On those days when I'm feeling lonely or homesick, I can log on and see their beautiful smiling faces, on those days, it helps. I'm a fairly social person by nature, so this life can be so frustratingly hard.
My children are currently the most consuming part of my life. I live them, I love them, I breathe them. I want to share them with the world, or shout it from the rooftops... This platform is my rooftop. Sometimes the little things they do make me feel like my heart is going to burst, and I want to share that feeling with others. Similarly, many of my friends have themselves created some of the most amazing little people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I love nothing more than logging on to Facebook or Instagram and seeing their gorgeous offspring... It's the next best thing to actually being able to see them in person. I can understand that this particular stage of my life isn't necessarily relevant to everyone, but it goes both ways. There are a number of different social media 'types' that I don't particularly gel with either.
I have been trying to figure out a more eloquent way of putting this, but nothing quite covers the way I'm feeling more than this- it bugs the absolute crapola outta me that mama's and papa's feel guilty about being proud of, and wanting to share their bubs with the world. So often we see a photo that's followed by something like #sorrynotsorry #babyspam or #overgramming, acknowledging that we've posted yet another photo, or even an outright apology, god forbid we offend someone with our babies! But WHY? Why should I feel guilty for posting updates or photos on MY page? I despise when a photo is prefaced with 'I promised I was never going to be one of THOSE parents'... That's cool, don't you be one of those parents. I would love nothing more than to have my friends and family in one place. To have all the loves of my life together, and to have them spend time with me and my little family. That's just not the case, and it will probably never happen. So, for me this is it... and if your thing is your dog, your food, your gym or crossfit, or you love nothing more than to share a good selfie, then go for it! After all, it's your page... that's the whole point!
The way I see it, people have a number of choices if they don't like what I post...
1. You can unfriend me- It may be a little harsh, but totally acceptable. I won't be offended.
2. You can unfollow me- easy peasy, I won't be any the wiser.
3. You can simply keep scrolling- no harm done.
4. Don't log on- if you have an issue with seeing what your 'friends' are doing and posting, then why are you on social media in the first place??
I love being able to see what makes my favourite people happy, reading about or seeing pictures of the latest #mummyfail and various toddler antics, photo number 357 of your baby's chubby cheeks or sweet smile, and pregnant bellies, I LOVE a good pregnant belly!
So as far as this little mother duck is concerned, post away people! Screw the haters, because I can guarantee that the photo you posted has just made someone's day... often mine.
Behind the blog...
‘The Mummysomniac’ is a lifestyle, motherhood and most recently, pregnancy blog, founded in 2015 by Kirsty McKenzie. She’s a mum of three, blogging about the highs and lows of motherhood, with a straight forward and honest approach, as well as a little bit of humour. Kirsty is passionate about sharing the realities of #MumLife, not the cookie cutter, high gloss version