I was afraid.
All I had ever heard people talk about, were the negatives associated with C- sections; The pain, the lengthy recovery, and the possibility of infection, to name but a few.
The topic was surrounded by negativity.
And here I was, facing the possibility for myself.
I can’t help but shake this feeling lately.
The time has come to pack away our baby things. The blankets, wraps, onesies and even the bassinet, it’s time to go. Except this time, I know it's the last time I'll ever use them. It's like the end of an era. My baby making days are through, and I'm not entirely sure how I feel about that.
When my beautiful big girl was a baby, I found myself standing on the edge of postnatal depression. It was almost as if I was standing on the edge of a cliff, looking down into a big black hole, just waiting for it to consume me. Like every day I was living on a razor’s edge. I didn’t trust myself with my own child. She deserved better than me.
I sat in the car, tears steaming down my face. I'd finally hit breaking point. So for a brief moment, I was alone, save the two sleeping babes behind me, and I let it all out. I'd been holding it together for so long, really only allowing my husband to catch glimpse of how I was really feeling... but why?
It's taken me three babies, and four long years to really learn how to trust my gut. To figure out that the little voice deep in the back of my subconscious, my intuition, is actually pretty spot on.
When my eldest was about 3.5 months old, I took her to my local GP. Her ears were red, and beginning to split, her gums were swollen, cheeks were flushed, and she was chewing on everything... not to mention the drool! I wanted to check up on her redding ears, just to be on the safe side, and rule out an ear infection. I mentioned this to the doctor, and told him that I was fairly certain she's just teething, but wanted to some reassurance. His response startled me. He said,
'No. It's not possible. She won't start teething until she's at least 6 or 7 months old'
And then he promptly sent me on my way.
There's a part of me that honestly cannot believe that I'm sitting here typing out my third and final birth story... ok, not that I've ever really put pen to paper about the first two, I suppose I should at some stage. It's just, I won't be doing this again.
Those of you that have been following me for a while will know that throughout the pregnancy, the possibility of this baby being delivered via Cesarean was highly likely. You'll also know that at times, this caused me great anxiety. Mostly due to the perceptions surrounding Cesarean birth, the comparisons between how we choose to give birth, and the judgement that comes along with that. What I have since learned, is that for me, those perceptions were entirely my own. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about how I gave birth, what matters is what I think about how I gave birth... in the end, that's the only perception that matters.
Every now and then, certain publications come out with these lists of 'Bloggers to watch out for' or, 'Top 10 Insta mums you need to follow'. The problem with these lists, are that they're always the usual suspects. The ones that many of us already follow, they're uber popular and have followings that rank in the tens, if not hundreds of thousands. Yet, every time I read one of these lists, I think of all the amazing bloggers out there that I absolutely love, that are well worth their weight in cheesecake. They're the ones I always look out for, the ones I always read, the ones I find myself nodding along in agreement with, or putting my pelvic floors to the test, trying not the wee myself cause they're actually funny as balls. SO, I thought I'd put together a list of my personal faves, ok, I had to cut the list down, I literally can't put ALL of my faves, so here's a selection of bloggers/Insta-mums that I think everyone should be following...
Aka... Kirsty's frequently stalked list. You're welcome.
I'm a woman of small stature. I've never been in the 'above average' category for anything really... except during pregnancy, and possibly my aptitude for food consumption. You see, I'm one of those anomalies. One of those women that somehow manages to grow babies that are too large for their bodies, and no matter how many times someone says to me, 'Your body won't grow a baby bigger than it can handle', it doesn't change the fact for me, I just do.
Immediately after the birth of our second child, my husband and I chose to send out a large group text to close family and friends, letting them know that the baby had arrived safely. After all, at that point in the process, that's all we could even really think about. The following day we were met with a few unhappy recipients, we were met with questions like,
There’s no singular reason way a person will wake up on any given day and decide, “I’m going to start a blog”. The reasons are as varied as the blogs out there in the blogosphere to read. Some start as a way to connect to others, some start as a way to (attempt to) catapult themselves into the limelight, others might have a grand plan, and the blog is their stepping stone… and others might simply become a blogger by accident. The one thing connecting each and every one of us, are the misconceptions clouding the blog world. The “appearance vs. reality” type scenarios that each and every one of us have, and have discovered along the way. The deeper we delve, and the longer we hang on, the more we discover.
Behind the blog...
‘The Mummysomniac’ is a lifestyle, motherhood and most recently, pregnancy blog, founded in 2015 by Kirsty McKenzie. She’s a mum of three, blogging about the highs and lows of motherhood, with a straight forward and honest approach, as well as a little bit of humour. Kirsty is passionate about sharing the realities of #MumLife, not the cookie cutter, high gloss version